Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Lots of people can't "go" on command


Seventeen million Americans suffer from “shy bladder”—according to the International Paruresis Assn.

Doctors and others tell them if you have to go bad enough, you will be able to. But it doesn’t work this way.

Some sufferers can’t hold jobs or take trips. One man, in a story by Detroit Free Press’s Robin Erb, took a job as a janitor so when he had to go, he could put out a sign and keep others out of the restroom.

Not being able to control it creates panic and panic means you can’t go.

Urinating means relaxing some strong muscles instantly and on command. If it doesn’t happen that way, panic sets in.

One man could not even walk around a building—he would be watching every bathroom to see who was coming in or out.

There are therapy sessions you can take that begin with lots of tea and water and work around to restrooms, first in the building, then out in public.

I don’t have this, but it sounds awful—like you would have to have a lot of secret coping mechanisms.

2 comments:

colmert said...

As a former shy bladder sufferer of many years, I can well relate to the debilitating effects this condition can have on one's life. In fact, I didn't really have much of one before I recovered, avoiding many social situations that required me to share a bathrooms with others (think ski cabins, sleepovers, college dormitories, work environments, etc).

Through a lot of practice of exposure exercises and changing my thinking about bathrooms and the women I might encounter in them, I have fully recovered. I have documented my journey in a guidebook I wrote, "Bathrooms Make Me Nervous". I hope those of you who suffer will find some hope and inspiration by reading it. http://www.bathroomsmakemenervous.com


Further information about paruresis can be found on the website of the International Paruresis Association, a nonprofit organization, at www.paruresis.org.

Star Lawrence said...

Thanks. Good input about slow output.