Monday, October 31, 2011
Toxic bosses can make us sick
A mean person with no boundaries and power over us. Ah—what a dream. Madeline Vann, MPH, Everyday Health, says bosses who throw things, screamers, people who crave chaos in order to excel, all can hurt those under them.
Bullies—a lot of them—bullies with no playground. They can “correct” you in front of others, steal your ideas, talk behind your back, the possibilities are endless.
Lynn Taylor, author of Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant, is quoted as saying people spend 19 hrs a week worrying about the boss. Six of those hours are on weekends.
This can cause depression, heart problems, overeating, asthma attacks, insomnia, and the consumption of tons of sick leave.
What can you do? First see the problem for what it is—them, not you. Write everything down.
Think of the boss as a toddler—is he or she hungry, tired, overwhelmed…Maybe a juice box?
I added the juice box.
Find a trusted sounding board-OK, person who isn’t sick of hearing about this.
Or—look for a job.
The juice box sounds easier. My advice? Take it one tantrum at a time.
Actually some bosses also wrote in on this--employees who malinger, who steal, who miss deadlines, who don't shower...they had their own beefs.