Tuesday, December 13, 2011
What if a holiday also marks a death?
What if someone you loved dies at holiday time? Is the holiday forever changed—or even ruined?
Debra Gelbart writes about this in the AZ Republic, Dec 7, 2011.
The holiday—with the emphasis, the gathering of people—can intensify the loss.
You may want to change traditions—substitute new ones. Or, some people like to hang on to the old ways.
It’s important not to set things in stone—you may do it the old way for a couple of years, then maybe go away at holiday time, do something new.
The person who is not there will always be in your heart. If the customary celebrations make the loss for painful, try changing it up.
The first year, when the pain is new, try not to overdo, though.