We usually think of older women as having low libido at a certain stage, but according to Larisa Wainer, PsyD, a psychologist with the Morris Psychological Group, says low desire is more common in older women, but when younger women experience it, they get more upset.
But desire in women fluctuates--women should know this.
Some causes are medications, such as birth control and antidepressants. Sometimes changing the dose can help.
Many illnesses affect libido---thyroid, cholesterol, high BP.
Hormonal changes, of course--from childbirth and breastfeeding. Staying up all night with a baby can also cut into desire.
Then there is poor body image ("I am fat," "I am bloated"). Or moral messages--"It's a sin."
Or--relationship factors--"He may be cheating." Or: "He does not look at me like he used to." Or "He is gross, when did he last take a shower?"
The best way to fix this is to fix on a cause.
One cause? This makes it sound impossible to anyone to have fun!